It’s not about legalizing rape so much as declaring it a metaphysical impossibility

Wednesday, August 8th, 2007 · 19 Comments »


This woman-shaped piece of meat has made the crucial mistake of reporting her rape. She will be punished.

Here’s an interesting change. After all these stories of women being prosecuted or threatened with legal action for pressing rape charges, today we have a story of a woman being prosecuted for not pressing rape charges.

You all remember that back in 2005, a 17-year-old girl was actually prosecuted for reporting her rape. Not only prosecuted but convicted of a crime — and all because the state decided it couldn’t prove the case against her attackers.

And with the Duke case, as you all know, every sexist twit this side of the Andromeda galaxy took to the intertubes to demand that the victim in that case also be prosecuted, again for the “crime” of reporting a crime that the state decided it couldn’t prove.

And in the De Anza case, a teenage girl who was gang-raped by a sports team was publicly castigated for, again, reporting a crime that the state decided it couldn’t prove.

Anybody see a pattern?

The increasingly loud message is clear: if you’re raped, you’d sure as hell better not press charges. If the state can’t prove the case, or even if the prosecutors decide they don’t believe you, you could go to jail! And shit, even if there’s airtight evidence, like a goddamn videotape of the assault, the defense attorneys will still crucify you and make your life a living hell and very possibly succeed in getting your attackers acquitted. Definitely better not to press charges.

Now, in a fascinating development, an Air Force woman who has obviously taken this message to heart is being court-martialed for not pressing charges.

The woman in question explained her decision this way: “Under enormous stress and after consultation with the legal office, I made the decision not to testify — the pressure of the judicial process was too much for me, and I felt like no one was looking out for my interests.”

In other words, the crucifixion party had started up and she decided to opt out. The usual crap was already being slung: she was promiscuous, she wore skin-tight clothes, she asked for it, yadeyadeyade. Damn if I blame her for bailing. She’d already been raped once and didn’t feel like repeating the experience. (Note, by the way, that this mess is going on in North Carolina, home of the Duke travesty. Not a good state for rape victims. )

But clearly she erred by not fully apprehending the rape zeitgeist, which is that if you’re raped, you’d better not report it at all. If you do, you will be punished. One way or another.

It’s a lose-lose scenario. If you press on with the case, you’ll be destroyed. If you don’t press on, you’ll be destroyed. The only people who don’t seem to be getting destroyed in all this is the men who are committing the goddamn rapes.

I’m reminded of the Catch-22 we saw with the street attack case, where the women who defended themselves and their friend were sent to jail. Sent to jail! And yet if a woman doesn’t fight back, that’s automatically proof that she asked for it, whatever “it” is.

I think the key here is to be found in that recent ruling that the word “rape” cannot be uttered in a rape trial. It doesn’t exist. There’s no such thing as rape anymore. There’s just “sex,” and a world full of lying sluts.

They’re trying to turn the clock back, kids. This is the patriarchy, fangs bared and poison dripping, ready to take back what it’s lost. For thirty-five years women have been talking about sovereignty over their own bodies, and the big P is pushing back. Time to get the meat under control. The MRAs are the vanguard, and every moment that they’re not whacking off to porn movies where women are abused and degraded and made to wear toilet seats around their necks, they’re trolling blogs and sending letters to the editor and spreading the word that women are sluts and liars, that rape never happens, that feminism has gone too far, gotta get the uppity bitches back in line. Fuck that noise.

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19 Responses to “It’s not about legalizing rape so much as declaring it a metaphysical impossibility”

  1. simply wondered says:

    nothing to say – how the fuck can a ‘civilised’ world do this?
    maybe it’s time to re-proclaim the age of savagery – it might be less errr savage.

  2. Violet says:

    The MRAs have already started in and I’m going to delete every one of their comments so don’t even bother, asswipes.

    Heart’s boards have been taken down by rapists/hackers (they’re hacking AND sending Heart rape threats), and I’m fucking not tolerating this shit. Fuck off and die, assholes.

  3. Violet says:

    Comments being temporarily shut down because the blog is being attacked by human stains (MRAs/pro-porn hackers).

  4. gingermiss says:

    Excellent post. Thank you for highlighting this.

  5. Victoria says:

    Violet, I thought you should know that this story was the subject of deeply engaged discussion (between myself, my husband, and the singer’s wife – a lovely woman) on the Lamb of God tour bus Wednesday night at Ozzfest in Columbus, OH. Just in case your ears were burning and it seemed like the discussion was emanating from some supremely unlikely digs.

    That bit of trivia aside, the rage I feel in response to this story (not to mention the recent hacktavism of the United Front of Fuckwads) is beyond what I can hope to articulate, much less constructively act upon, but I’m trying. I read you for lots of reasons, not least among them is that your human rage is so gorgeously, constructively, coherently intact as to be inspiring even to someone who deliberately walked away from so much rage (separatism, etc.) You’re a warrior and, when it matters, also a comedian (really, the Cheetos bit!), which is a damn fine combination of traits among kickass feminists. Rock on.

  6. Violet says:

    gingermiss, welcome! And thank you.

    Victoria, it is wonderful to see you out and about in your blogmobile again. But what, pray tell, was *said* on the Lamb of God tour bus? ‘Splain!

  7. mekhit says:

    Wow. That post wasn’t terribly long, but you hit just about every nail on the head — the mark of a truly gifted writer! I’ll definitely be coming back here.

  8. Violet says:

    Thank you, mekhit. And it’s nice to see you here, welcome. I recognize your name from ’round the tubes.

  9. Lexia says:

    These are the congressional representatives for Fort Bragg:
    Senator Elizabeth Dole (R- NC)
    [on the Senate Armed Services Committee, no less]:
    202-224-6342 202-224-1100 http://dole.senate.gov/index.cfm?FuseAction=ContactInformation.ContactForm
    Senator Richard Burr (R- NC) 202-224-3154 202-228-2981 http://burr.senate.gov/index.cfm?FuseAction=Contact.Home

    Representative Bobby Etheridge (D – 02) 202-225-4531 202-225-5662 http://www.house.gov/etheridge/contactbob.htm

    Bobby Etheridge is also on the House Armed Services committee.

  10. Victoria says:

    What was said was a tangle of tangential bits** on everything from the case in question here (outrage and incredulity expressed all around) to the material in Cindy’s (the aforementioned wife of singer) feminist literary theory class which she said I should crash sometime, forget all my issues about being in exile from academia. Then I took sappy pics of her and the hub, and they took pictures of us which I will eventually post if I can stop obsessing about the recent bullcrap misogynist hacktavism for long enough to accomplish the task. (I really have fallen down the rabbit-hole of all that this week. Which is, I am sure, partly what they want. Fuckers.)

    Thanks to Lexia for the relevant info above! I believe I have just identified a more constructive outlet for my feminist rage.

    __

    ** A more complete accounting would have required the presence of a recorder. (I was a tad inebriated, ‘k?)

  11. Victoria says:

    Oh and btw, that phrase, “out and about in your blogmobile”? Totally cracked me up.

  12. txfeminist says:

    I haven’t been on ze blogs in so long. Violet, I almost forgot how much I love you!!

  13. Violet says:

    Tx!!! Hey, girl! Haven’t seen you in forever!

  14. Daisy says:

    When you point the finger at someone and say they are lying, you are pointing 3 back at yourself -(try this – it works).

    Conspiracy theories abound about all sorts, but this one is real – rape is being obliterated as a crime, as a word, and as a cause for psychological harm and it’s after-effects are worse almost than the rape. Fuck that shit. We won’t let them do it.

  15. jane says:

    my daughter was gang raped by members of 50 Cents G unit at a college campus near our house. It was in daylight and there were witnesses. She is mentally “slow” and was a total victim. She said no. She cried and begged. She was brutally raped and sodomized. They had lawyers there before she got out of the ER. She did everything right. 50 cent had lawyers, the college had lawyers, and the college is the “company” in this “company town” She was rebrutalized on the streets of the town and in the local media because she couldn’t prove she didn’t consent and she is a bad speaker and slow so the DA didn’t want to risk becoming what we now see happens to DA who at least try to give rape victims a say in court, a Mike Niphong. There was intimidation and they hired a PI to try and find us(G unit did) they were black. She is white. We are not poor. They are really really rich as is the college. We had no chancve–they told us to get over it. I nearly died while waiting on the HIV test results. I have never recovered and now have a heart condition. My daughter never reclaimed her self-esteem when no one believed her. This is so disgusting. We need at least 50 % women in charge of this world.

  16. Violet says:

    Jane, I’m so sorry. My heart goes out to both of you.

  17. Natasha says:

    “Conspiracy theories abound about all sorts, but this one is real – rape is being obliterated as a crime, as a word, and as a cause for psychological harm and it’s after-effects are worse almost than the rape. Fuck that shit. We won’t let them do it.”

    Then if we, you, other, Mean that,

    then lets Stop making ‘excuses’ under Culture

    lets Stop making ‘excuses’ under Religion

    lets Stop TOLERATING being sold out by women

    who support porn, support misogyny in religion and stop cowering and caving in

    to the accusations of racism and imperialism every time we stand UP,

    and stop allowing the supporters of misogyny under race, culture, religion, political ideology
    to COLONIZE and infiltrate boards and in doing so silencing those revolutionaries who dare take a stand…

    or

    GET USE TO MORE TOLERANCE OF RAPE.

    Women are being SOLD OUT, by leftists [oh HELL YEA], by right wingers, by nationalists, by religious holy warriors, by campaigns, by elites, lawyers, you name it,

    we are being sold out.

    as Human Beings–either we fight, and I do mean FIGHT, or we lose,

    and our daughters lose.

    Its either ZERO TOLERANCE or sitting on the fence.

    When I see women bearing breasts to protest war yet won’t dare even speak up and DEMAND ZERO TOLERANCE TO RELIGIOUS MISOGYNY,

    I have to scratch my head and think,

    “and they wonder why violence against women is increasing?”

    Obama isn’t going to save us, Men aren’t going to save us, COMPROMISE isn’t going to save us

    either we stand AS WOMEN FOR WOMEN, ALL WOMEN, RIGHT, LEFT, COMMIES, CHRISTIANS, JEWS,ETC.,

    OR WE get used to being the ‘chattel’ sold, traded, bartered, enslaved, and raped.

    Either we Stop the ‘you don’t speak for us because you’re not black or you’re not white or you’re not liberal and etc etc etc

    or we’ll wind up, worse off.

    Its Now or Never,

    FIGHT NOW…OR RESIGN TO THIS,

    We DON’T HAVE THE LUXURY OR THE TIME to wait for all women to become lesbian, or all women to become liberal, or all women to forsake marriage…we simply do NOT have the time

    there is a spoken war and an unspoken war AGAINST ALL WOMEN in this world–there is right now as we speak FORCES WORKING TO SET UP SHARIA IN THIS COUNTRY, IN EUROPE,

    and we talk compromise…

    Women its time to wake up–or we are going to wind up Just like the women in the Congo, Just like the women in Columbia, Just like the women in Afghanistan, Just like the women in Iran, Saudi,

    and IF we wind up like that—we Can’t help them, we can’t even help ourselves.

    WE’LL MARCH FOR HILARY–BUT WE WON’T MARCH FOR US, FOR WOMEN

    WE’LL MARCH AND POSE ON TREES BUTT ASS NAKED [WHILE DEMONIZING OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE SPEAKING UP AGAINST SHARIA, REPUBLICAN OR NOT, DOESN'T MATTER--AT LEAST THEY ARE SPEAKING UP]

    but

    WE WON’T FIGHT FOR WOMEN

    WE’LL FIGHT FOR ANTI-WAR AND PRAISE SUICIDE BOMBERS [AFTER A LIFE OF ABUSE NO WONDER, DUH, DOESN'T TAKE A GENIUS TO FIGURE THAT LEVEL OF MISOGYNY OUT]

    BUT DARE WE FIGHT FOR WOMEN AS WOMEN

    WE’LL DO IT FOR DE BROTHER, FOR DE NATION, FOR OBAMA, FOR HILARY, FOR MCCAIN, FOR DE UNION, FOR DE POLITICAL PARTY, FOR ANIMALS–WHO ARE TREATED BETTER THAN WOMEN WORLD OVER AND THATS NOT SAYING MUCH…

    BUT FOR WOMEN?

    for our DAUGHTERS? THEIR DAUGHTERS?

    HOW MANY MORE? HOW MANY MORE HAVE TO BLEED

    BEFORE WE FIGHT?

    HOW MANY MORE?

    Natasha
    Director of WAMI

  18. Greenconsciousness says:

    Thank you for this post which illustrates how abusers use our gains to punish women. DV abusers use injunctions and unindited rapists clothed respectably use the rape laws.

    But on the other hand, every rapist unnamed, every child left in an abusive household because the mother returns again and again, increases the threat of violence and actual violence to all women including you, including me.

    See: http://uaadvwisconsin.blogspot.com/

    We must demand security, protection and services for those who come forward. Mafia witnesses get it, politicians get it, why not us?

  19. Greenconsciousness says:

    What is an MRA ???? I bet it is not magnetic resonance angiogram . I really don’t know somebody tell me – I just told some GOP Chair to F off and F U so I hope it doesn’t happen to me.